Languages ​​of love, what are the love languages of you and your partner?

Languages ​​of love, what are the love languages of you and your partner?

What is the language of love?

Talking to your loved ones in their language means doing things for them that make them feel that you love them.

This thing is not only for husband and wife but it is important in all relationships like your mother, father, brother, sister or other relatives.

Let us see which are the five languages ​​of love.

Those are five languages.

Words of affirmation

Giving Quality Time

Receiving Gifts

Act of Services

Physical Touch

Before understanding these languages ​​in detail, let us know one more thing.

Emotional love tank:

The author has used a word here, that word is Emotional love tank which means love tank or box.

He has told that whenever a person feels that someone loves him, then the tank of his emotional love is full, but when he feels that he is not being loved, then this love tank starts emptying.

Keeping this love tank full is as important as keeping the oil level in a vehicle full.

You must have seen that sometimes some people start driving their car without oil, then the engine of their car stops completely and then there is a lot of problem in starting the car. The same way happens in relationships, the vehicle of marriage comes to a halt till divorce.

Let us now understand the languages ​​of love in detail.

1. Words of Affirmation:

People who have an appreciation for their primary love language love to hear their praise and especially from their husband or wife.

Mark Twain once said that once someone praises me, I can live for two months. We can guess from his words that if someone praises him only six times in a year, then his emotional love tank will be full for a whole year but your partner will need more than this.

In fact, love begins with words of praise.

I love you or how beautiful you look are the words that people usually speak.

Be sure to praise your partner for everything they are good at and especially praise what they want to hear from you.

Like you look prettiest of all in this dress!

I think you make the best potato sabzi in the whole world!

You can praise your husband like this.

You are so honest and hardworking, don't take leave even once in a whole year!

How good are you, you bring the grocery on time!

Courageous words:

Your partner needs it the most.

Here the author has given an example.

There was a girl named Alison. He was very fond of writing. He wrote some articles after his marriage and sent it to the publisher of a magazine, but the publisher did not like them and those articles were not published.

Then she got busy in her home world.

And forgot her hobby.

After a few years, one day her husband, Cath, took out her old articles from Alison's cupboard and read her and praised her very much and she said I am sure that you will become a poor writer.

You must keep writing.

Alison was very excited to hear this and started writing again and after a few years, she became a great writer.

So don't skimp on praising your partner.

Speak words of love with love.

Keep in mind that your style has more power than words.

The tone in which you are speaking is more important than which word you are using.

Eg: I love you?

I love you.

The question mark has changed the meaning of your words.

Sometimes our words are different but the tone of talking is completely different.

Therefore, speak the words of love with the love only.

2. Quality Time:

You have everything at home, you have a lot of money, a good house, and a car, but if you are not able to give time to your partner, then their love tank will become empty.

Quality time is a big problem these days. Many husbands go to the office in the morning and then they come back at night. In many families both the husband and wife work. After the wife comes from the office, she does household chores, the husband is busy with mobile or TV, then both go to sleep after having dinner.

How to give quality time?

One thing to keep in mind here is that you do not just have to be with each other but you have to give your excellent time. This means your full attention should be on each other.

Husband and wife are sitting and watching TV, so they are sitting together but both of them have their full attention on the TV. It doesn't come in quality time.

You can spend your quality time in this way.

You can sit and talk to each other, today you can tell each other about what happened in the office or at home, you can listen to each other's story.

If there is a small child in the house, then both can play together with him.

You can go for a walk after dinner or in the morning.

You can do any such work together in which your attention is on each other.

You can go out for dinner any day of the week.

You must have seen many couples having food in hotels. You can easily understand by looking at them that they are dating or married people.

Because dating people come to restaurants to spend time with each other and married people come only to have food.

So don't just give time to your partner but give excellent time.

3. Receiving Gifts:

A gift is a physical symbol of love.

The primary love language of some people is to receive gifts.

Knowing this, probably many husbands can get upset because whenever the name of the gift comes, money is also needed to buy it.

The things that wives like are our jewellery, make-up items, and nice clothes.

Jewelery is very expensive and a lot of money is spent on clothes too.

But there is a good news for you that for those people whose love language gift is to be received, the price of the gift does not matter much. When receiving a gift, the most important thing is the spirit of the giver.

You must have seen many people that they keep very small and low value gifts for life. For this, definitely give a gift to your partner.

People whose primary love language is to receive gifts, keep giving too many gifts to others and expect the same from other people to give them gifts too.

Which gift should be given?

You can gift any item to your spouse which they like.

In a gift, you can buy, find or make something and give it.

If you look at the last one year, whenever you gave him a gift and he was very happy, then you will get an idea of ​​​​what should be given as a gift.

A rose flower can be the best and cheapest gift for your wife and you can ever give.

You can give anything by making it with your own hands.

By buying a card from the market, you can give a gift by writing a nice message on it.

You can take suggestions from your partner's relatives about what gifts should be given.

Gift giving can be difficult for those people whose primary love language is not a gift.

They will think that this is a wasteful expenditure, but where you invest to increase your wealth, you must spend a little money for the happiness of your partner because money is important only when there is love in life.

Don't wait for a special occasion to give a gift. Whenever you give a gift, it will become a special occasion for your partner.

4. Act of Services

Act of services means to do some work for your partner or help him in some work.

It has become a culture in our India that men will do all the outside work and women will do all the household chores.

Some women also do jobs and together they do all the household chores and husband Dev works only to earn money. In such a situation, if you want to help your wife's language of love, then her love tank can be completely empty and love can decrease in both of their lives. Secondly, there are some women who keep putting all the work on their husband, then their life will not be happy.

How to help your partner?

If you remember the last few weeks, you will remember that your partner asked you to do some work, do it.

Help your wife with her household chores on holiday.

Wife can cooperate in husband's office work.

Take a card and write it on it. Dear I love you that's why…. By doing this work, I will give you the gift of my love, write in it any such work which will make your wife happy.

Ask your partner what is the work that I will do, then you will feel that I love you?

Serve, increase love.

5. Physical Touch:

When it comes to physical touch, the first thing that may come to mind is the physical connection.

But this is not completely true. Physical touch may or may not mean physical connection.

Research has shown that children who are held, hugged, kissed and loved more by their parents and relatives are emotionally stronger than children who are not loved.

People whose primary language is physical touch may feel better when touched.

How to do physical touch?

Can hold each other's hand while watching TV or talking.

You can hug or kiss.

Especially whenever your partner is sad, upset, then definitely hug him.

You must have seen that when someone dies in the family or there is a lot of sorrow, words do not work, but hug someone, he gets a lot of relief.

Children whose primary language is physical touch are killed, then they feel very sad because hitting also comes in physical touch but it is touching in a negative way, so such children should not be killed.

Similarly, children who have love language words of affirmation, they are called bad and good, then they suffer a lot because this too is a negative type.

In this book, the author has written everything very well but did not talk about one thing, that thing is money. Perhaps in America, there would not have been a fight between husband and wife over money and money. In us, all the fights between husband and wife happen only because of lack of money.

I have told in the Cash Flow Quadrant that out of the four ways of earning money, which are the two ways by which people become rich.

How to recognize your love language?

After reading the whole article, the same question must be coming in your mind that how to recognize your own love language?

Recognizing your love language is easy.

Ask yourself these three questions.

What is the thing that your partner does not do or is unable to do that causes you pain? What hurts you by not doing it can be your love language.

What do you keep asking your partner to do? What you are always demanding for can be your love language.

How do you keep showing love to your partner? The way you love can be your love language.

(Wait a minute, if you have come to know your love language, then definitely tell it by writing in the comment.)

How to recognize your partner's love language?

We all use our primary love language to show our love.

Like the one whose love language is words of affirmation, he talks to people very lovingly, expresses sympathy.

Quality time people spend time with others.

Gift takers keep giving gifts to others

Those with the Act of Services keep helping others in their work.

In return, they want other people to treat them the way they are doing.

Because whatever language people have, they talk in that language.

By reading this article, you might have got an idea that what is the language of love of your partner. Still, if you haven't come to know yet, talk to your partner about it and ask them, "Dear, tell me what is your love language?"

And also tell them that you want to know because you want to keep their love tank full for life.

How to keep your partner's love tank full?

Once a week both the people must ask each other how many numbers out of ten would you give to your love tank today?

The number ten means full and zero means completely empty.

If your partner's love tank is empty, then ask them what should I do for you, after which your love tank will be full?

Then do whatever they tell you to do. And bring happiness in your life.

So brothers and sisters, these are the five words of love. Hope you have understood completely.

In the end, I will just say that it will take some hard work and some time to maintain and increase the love.

Everything is there in your married life but if there is no love between you, then you will not be able to be happy.

Love is as important as bread, clothes, house and education in life.