Masturbation: Confusion some

 Masturbation: Confusion some

There is a joke in English, '80 percent of people masturbate. And 20 percent lie about it.

However, there is no truth in this joke. Not everyone masturbates. The truth is that no one wants to admit that they masturbate.

As the sex toy market is expanding now, it has made activities like masturbation easier. Both men and women do masturbation, but comparatively men are more active in it.

This is a purely personal action. Therefore, although masturbation is common, it is considered illegal to do such an act in public places.

Since masturbation is not taken for granted and is not discussed openly, there is some ambivalence among people about it. In some of those who masturbate, it has created a sense of guilt and in some, shame. The psychology of ``masturbating is not good'' has made people feel inferior inside.

After masturbating, they may be haunted by the feeling that they have done something bad. This is why their emotional development can be affected. Self-motivation may be weak.

Is masturbation a natural act or not?

Different people have different ideas about it. Some consider it unnatural, while others consider it a natural process. However, common people do not consider it unusual. However, not everyone is clear about the benefits or harms of doing this.

Does it harm or benefit?

It should be understood as a process of calming down the sexual desire in a person rather than having advantages or disadvantages.

There are both advantages and disadvantages to masturbation. Masturbation has not been found to harm health. However, it can affect the psychology.

Humans naturally have sexual desire. Some can suppress it, some can reveal it. It depends on their situation. If sexual desire cannot be managed properly, it can cause sexual leprosy. Sexual dysfunction not only hinders people from doing their daily work, but can also provoke them to do some wrong actions. Therefore, some argue that masturbation is a good option to avoid such risks.

During masturbation, people feel sexual pleasure. At this time, the brain secretes hormones called endorphins. This hormone makes people stress free and happy.

It calms the sexual arousal and the man does not have sexual disorders. Due to this, they are not motivated to do some sexual acts.

Masturbation can also be a natural pain reliever. According to a study on masturbation, it acts as a 'painkiller' for physical pain. It has also been found in some studies to reduce the risk of prostate cancer.

Due to hormonal changes during pregnancy, sexual desire increases in some women. At this time, masturbation is considered an easy and safe way to get rid of sexual tension.

Some illusions too

There are also some misconceptions about masturbation. Some people are saying that while masturbating, vision loss, dark circles, penis size increase or decrease, number of sperms decrease, dandruff occurs, which is not true.

It is also heard that due to the habit of masturbating, sexual life becomes rough, premature ejaculation, childlessness etc. There is no scientific basis for this. Masturbation has no sign of infertility or premature ejaculation.

But also a loss

Everything has its limits. Excessive indulgence in masturbation is also not good.

It is not appropriate to develop masturbation as a habit. Sometimes it is just an option to calm the sexual arousal.

However, if a person indulges in masturbation more, it not only hinders his daily work but also slows down his creative activities. They become more focused on masturbation and become more interested in sexual activities.

After getting used to masturbation, they also start showing interest in pornographic material. It interferes with their other work.

Just as people get addicted to drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, etc., some people can get addicted to it. Actually getting addicted to masturbation is not good. In such a situation, they may have to consult a psychiatrist.

Talking about sexual health with teenagers

'Drunken by bamboo', 'climbed by bamboo'. Adolescent playfulness was understood or explained in this way, in ancient society. However, at an age stage, such playfulness is natural. Physical changes and emotional upheaval at that time also make them more restless.

Therefore, at this age, they make new friends, are attracted to the opposite sex, and are interested in sex. While they find it uncomfortable to express this openly. Not only the curiosity about sex, but also the development of their own genitals raises many questions in them. It creates fear and apprehension. Such numerous questions related to sex are knotted in their minds. There is a risk of slowly making them depressed.

This can also be the factor that causes acts like unprotected sex, unwanted pregnancy, sexual violence, abuse, rape.

Internet and pornography addiction

The biggest risk is that today's children have easy access to the Internet. From that they can search and view obscene content. They do not know the difference between sex education and pornographic material. Therefore, in order to satisfy their curiosity, they may become addicted to pornographic photos/videos.

Not only that, there is also the possibility of sharing obscene photos and videos by making friends on social media. This can get them into a big problem in the future. Therefore, it is important to discuss sexual knowledge and sexual health with children to get the right solution from all these things.

Is it sexual violence?

Are our children being sexually abused by their classmates? There can be such a risk from the Internet.

They may be sending obscene material through social media, inciting them to commit obscene acts. Even if they are subjected to sexual violence, they may feel sad. Some may have tricked them, tricked them into sharing pornographic photos and videos. And they may have tried to gain other benefits through that. Therefore, it is important to understand and find out what kind of mood your child is in. In addition, the nature of sexual violence through the Internet and its risks should be explained.

Parents especially need to talk about sexual health and abstinence with their teenage children. But how?

Let's find an excuse to talk

In a family structure like ours, it is not so easy to talk about sex between parents and children. How to talk, what to say? Parents are confused. Any excuse can be found for this.

Such as television, newspapers, social media, etc. news and advertisements about sex. By keeping the same content in the center, you can focus on what you have to say or what you want to say.

What topics to talk about?

Girls can start menstruation from the age of eight to nine years. That is, their physical changes happen when they are young. At this time, although their bodies are maturing, they are not emotionally mature. Due to this, they may feel fear, shame, guilt about what is happening in their body. Children should be taught that this is a natural process and should be taken lightly.

We can talk about the physical changes that occur during adolescence. Like menstruation, genital development. At this time, we can discuss what kind of physical problems they may have when they are menstruating, from how to adopt physical hygiene to the use of pads.

It is also important to say how to clean the genitals, what can happen if it is not done, how often to change underwear. The physical or emotional changes that occur with the development of the genitals should also be explained.

As they grow up, their interest in sex also increases. At this stage, dreams will be disturbed and attraction towards the opposite sex will increase. Parents need to discuss how to take it easily.

Parents should create such a favorable environment that children can talk openly about sex.

Adolescents can ask the following questions related to sex:

How do I know if I'm ready for sex?

Problems like peer pressure, curiosity and loneliness incite teenagers to engage in sex. Parents should remind them that they should be restrained for sex. Sex is an adult behavior. Therefore, rather than engaging in sexual behavior with another friend, you should be encouraged to establish a healthy relationship. Parents should remind teenagers that they can bond with others through talking, playing, dancing, singing and other activities.

What if my partner agrees to have sex but I don't?

If a teenager is not ready for sex, there is nothing to force it. Any type of forced sexual intercourse is rape, whether it is by a loved one or a stranger.

Information on methods of safe sex

If your teen is sexually active, it's important for parents to talk about it. If they don't want to talk about it, parents should initiate the conversation. Parents should remind teenagers about their responsibilities after becoming sexually active. Parents should explain the importance of safe sex. They should be taught about condoms and other contraceptive methods when engaging in sex.

Is sleeplessness a problem?

It is natural to have sleep disorders during adolescence. But they do not consider it natural. They are afraid inside, is it not a complicated sexual disease?

Because we don't have the habit of telling some sexual problems openly. So they hide their problems within themselves. As a result, it creates more fear, guilt, suspicion in them. Most of the teenagers and young people go through similar moods regarding nightmares.

What is Swapnadosh?

Ejaculation while sleeping is a dream defect. Sleep disorders are especially common in adolescence. At this time, desire and attraction towards sex increases. In this case, during sleep, self-participation in sexual activity or imagining sex may cause ejaculation.

Hormonal changes and with it curiosity about sex, conception occurs during sleep and ejaculation occurs, so it is called Swapnadosha.

Is this a problem?

Although it is called Swapnadosh, it is not any kind of defect. It is considered normal and natural sexual behavior. It is a sexual response in the human mind. So you don't have to be afraid of having a bad dream.

Why?

Swapna dosha is caused by age-related development of genitals and emotional development, attraction to the opposite sex, hormonal changes, suppression of sexual desire. Similarly, the habit of watching sexual videos is also likely to cause sleep disorders.

Does Swapnadosha affect anything?

It has no effect physically or in terms of reproductive health. That is, it does no harm. But it can affect psychologically. Because even if it is a dream defect, some people do not know what it is and why it is happening. There is no tendency to ask questions or discuss it openly if there is a dream defect. So they hide such problems from themselves.

Have you got any sexually transmitted disease? Will it be like this forever? Is this the reason for childlessness? Many doubts like that make them sad and restless. That's why their mood deteriorates, it also affects their daily work.

Need information

It is important to inform about the normal physical changes that occur during adolescence. At that stage, what kind of physical or emotional upheavals can happen should be openly stated. This makes them able to take any change in their body easily.

Parents and teachers should also tell this. Because even though this seems like a normal problem, it is having a bad effect on their psychology. It is important to include this kind of subject in school education.

More sexual desire is not good

Having a bad dream is related to a person's sexual desire. Desire and attraction towards sex is a natural process. But like everything has a limit, it also has certain limits. Thinking about sex all the time, imagining sexual activities, watching sexual content is not good. It not only increases their sexual desire, but also affects their regular routine.

They gradually separate from their work, duties and responsibilities. They end up destroying their important time by indulging in sexual matters.

Is there a cure for sleep disorders?

There is no cure for sleep disorders. To avoid this, you should pay attention to healthy entertainment. Daily exercise, proper diet and meaningful routine also bring positive changes in it. Should be separated from sexual matters and activities.